The transition from summer to fall represents a time of change and for some people, a time of change can be an opportunity to consider a divorce. If you’re considering a divorce, it’s essential to prepare yourself for what lies ahead. Preparation and proactiveness are key to mitigating the anxiety of any major life change, including a divorce and in this post, I’ll suggest how you can prepare yourself if considering such a major change.
Why Prepare For Divorce at All?
A divorce is not only emotionally challenging but mentally taxing. Preparing allows you to:
- Reduce the stress and anxiety of the process
- Ensure a smoother process
- Build a foundation to protect your interests and rights
- Make informed decisions about your future
Logistical Preparation
As you begin to think about a divorce, consider the following:
- Choosing a divorce attorney: Representation throughout this difficult process is key and an experienced Maryland family law attorney can help guide you through the process.
- Evaluate your living situation: Whether you remain in your marital home or seek alternative living arrangements is a key consideration and one you should contemplate.
- Evaluate your child-based arrangements: If you have children, consider your and your spouse’s ability to co-parent and existing child-based arrangements and how they will change after a change in living situation.
Financial Preparation
Getting your finances in order is a critical and necessary step. Some of the primary steps include:
- Gather financial documents: Collect all of your relevant financial documents, including pay stubs for the last year, bank statements for the last two years, investment account statements for the last two years, retirement account statements for the last two years, and the last three income tax returns.
- Create a budget: An often overlooked step, and yet possibly the most critical is that you establish a budget setting forth your income, expenses, and debts. This is essential to helping you and your attorney understand your financial situation and allows you to make informed decisions.
- Evaluate marital versus non-marital property: If you have inherited or pre-marital property, begin to gather information showing why the property is non-marital. This will be critical.
Emotional Preparation
Divorce can be emotionally draining, so:
- Establish a support network: Reach out to friends and family who can provide emotional support and guidance.
- Focus on yourself: Engage in activities that promote relaxation and stress reduction, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies.
- Consider counseling: Marriage counseling may not be an option, but individual counseling can help you process your emotions and prepare for the transition ahead. Seeing a therapist is not a vulnerability to your case.
Initiating the Divorce Process
Once you’ve prepared yourself, it’s time to initiate the divorce process:
- Retain your attorney: You and your attorney can discuss the best approach for your case.
Conclusion
Preparing for a divorce requires careful consideration and planning. By taking the time to prepare yourself logistically, financially, and emotionally can set you up for a smoother and less stressful process. If you’re considering a divorce, reach out to discuss how to best prepare for your potential divorce matter.
